My work wellness coach believes very heavily in the coaching part of her job, which means she doesn’t want to give you advice, just “coach” you and motivate you to come up with your own solutions. The following is a general idea (this is meant to be humorous) of what went down during our call.
Her: What’s your goal for our coaching sessions?
Me: I need help adjusting my food to higher-protein, lower-carb options, while still getting a lot of vegetables in. I especially need help with finding high protein snacks for on-the-go. I’m bored with my current set of snacks.
Her: Ok, how could you find help?
Me: I can call you and ask you.
Her: How ELSE could you find help? What could you do on your own?
Me: Calling you, an expert is helping myself.
Her: What could you do OTHER than call me?
Me: I know what you want me to say, you want me to come up with ways to research this on my own and I get it, “help people help themselves.” But the reality is, I’m a highly motivated person and I’ve already done everything else. I’ve read diabetic magazines, searched the web for recipes, gotten on bodybuilder forums thinking they’d have a lot of ideas, interviewed friends, and more. Logically speaking, considering my efforts thus far haven’t been very successful, the next most logical actionable step is to seek the help of someone more educated than I, which is you. So, while I appreciate what you are trying to do the best way for me to help myself at this point is to seek answers directly from you, my wellness coach.
Her: (exasperated, mumbled off a few names of some recipe books, told me to eat more beans and said we’d check back with each other in a couple of weeks…which didn’t happen).
Ah well, back to the drawing board :-). To be fair, I’ve had other wellness coaches that helped me immensely and her approach is correct for a majority of folks, just not me.